Life is dynamic, always moving, always changing, and that is OK. Understanding those principles can aid us in our lives. Here are four of these principles that lead towards dynamic progression: Acceptance, Our Abilities, Letting go, and Karma.
Accepting where we are in this moment in time is difficult. Yes, many of us would like to be somewhere else, but we are where we are. Maybe you heard the saying, “It is what it is.” I believe what that means is we cannot change this exact moment in time, but that is OK, because with time and patience we can achieve many of our dreams—maybe all of our dreams.
One thing I have discovered about dreams is that dreams make the journey more interesting and enjoyable. Once we have achieved our dreams, like a new car, a new house, a new job, going on an expedition to climb a mountain, or . . . we may find we are less happy. It has been my experience that we are most happy when we are in pursuit of a worthwhile goal.
It may be like a basketball game, climbing a peak, or getting a date with that hot other person. While we are on the court, involved in life, doing what we can to score points, or share the interesting fun aspects of life, we are much happier than when we are sitting on the bench, or after the game is over.
I distinctly remember my first major expedition. It was difficult, overwhelming at times, dangerous, sort of fun, eye opening, and . . . As we were coming down the mountain, dragging a sled full of arctic climbing gear, I looked back up the Northeast Fork of the Kahiltna Glacier (nick named the valley of death) and I felt very sad. I have heard others say they have experienced the same thing.
We do have the ability to change our circumstances and future. It seems when we talk about “circumstances” it is often looked at like “it is our fault – we should have, could have, or . . .” otherwise we are to blame for our situation. I believe we do have some control over what occurs in life, but there are often circumstances which we had absolutely no direct control over, which have helped to create our various situations.
With that said, there three key things associated with our ability to change our situation: 1.The past, 2.The future, and 3.The present. The past is gone forever; hopefully we were able to acquire knowledge and experience. The future is promised to no one, but . . . we can influence our future, sometimes to a great extent. The present is now, this exact very moment in time.
I have heard it explained as a scale of 0 to 10. 0 to 4 is the past; 6 to 10 is the future, and 5 is this moment in time. 5 is now the only thing we have any control over, or as they put it, “Living at 5.” If we would like a better tomorrow, we can influence it by what we do now. Rarely are these things big, life altering things; rather they are small things, like the sculptor’s tools, that carve, chip, weld, and . . . ultimately build a dream. The tools I am talking about are the good living principles of life.
I have heard this referred to as defenselessness. The person who said it suggested that we spend 99.9% of our time trying to defend our point of view (POV). The catch is, we do not have to defend our POV, because no else knows what that is, or our ultimate goal. It is our choice, and in reality, the only person we are totally responsible for is us. Try listening instead, we rarely listen to what someone else is saying; because most of us are busy trying to figure out what we want to say.
I don’t think it is defending our point of view so much as we are trying to share information and facts to help paint a more accurate picture of our lives. It may also have to do with our efforts to live that ideal life, we are striving to go there, and we are afraid we may be punished (guilt) for not being the person we would like to be and, or the person someone else thinks we should be.
Now if something inside of us nags at us, we must decide whether it is our internal spirit or guidance; or is it something like racism, prejudices, guilt, or ignorance. Then, rather than defending our POV maybe we should decide how we would like it to be, and start cutting steps with our ice axe, one by one, moving towards our goal.
I believe that as humans we realize we are valuable and important and that we have great potential. The difficulty comes when we try to live up to that potential. Another angle is that others care, and want to help us, but they do not know “our” plans or goals, so they may be pushing us in a different direction than “our spirit requires us to go.”
So we try to explain or defend our current moment in time to others. We do that by defending various things in our life. Why must we defend our position, life is so complicated and convoluted that it is very difficult to communicate our circumstances to another—especially if they have never experienced anything similar?” Is it possible for any of us to look into another person’s life and in truly see who they are? This idea is as old as time, thus the saying, “Try walking a mile in their moccasins.”
As long as we continue to make baby steps towards our goals, we are on a solid path. Like drops in the bucket, they eventually add up to a bucket full. We should take note, that in some cases others may get involved in our lives, trying to help (sometimes manipulate) us; and all that does is muddy the water, and make it more difficult for us to become the person we must.
If we try to be anything other what our spirit suggests, it won’t work. Try making an accountant be a welder, a mechanic be a public speaker, a business person a night watch person; it just does not work in the long run. Although at times we want to help someone else, our efforts might simply muddy the water.
First, karma is not a religion. All karma is, is the natural dynamic flow of life. Like the lion and the mouse fable, what goes around comes around. Another aspect of this is when I am able to assist you; it is like a bank account, a karmic debt. We pay it in several different ways. One is to pay it directly back, like the lion and the mouse.
Another way, or the big picture way, which I have experienced, is humbling to say the least. Basically it works like this. You assist me, and rather than me record it in my ledger, and remember you owe me; I pay it forward, and someone else receives. When I can, and when the opportunity presents itself I strive to do so, who knows, it may end up helping a loved one.
Now what if I pay it forward too many times? It creates a karmic credit, and generally it comes back to us in other ways. But beware; keeping track is a losing game. When you can, regardless of what others think, assist others, generally it makes good sense, you make good friends, create good experiences, we learn, and much more.